I have been asked to travel for 2 weddings this year, and with me being unemployed, I’m having a very difficult time trying to figure out what I’m going to do.
As you know, BF and I are supposed to go to Michigan in July for a wedding. My very best friend from college. We have tentatively earmarked my Amex travel dollars towards this trip (I have about $500 earned so far).
But this past weekend, I found out that another very good friend from my hometown has announced that she will be most likely getting married in Hawaii at the end of the summer. Destination wedding = $$$.
I have to figure out what I want to do. I really want to go to both weddings. They are both very good friends of mine. But I need to be responsible here. I don’t know if I’ll get a job anytime soon. I don’t know if I will receive EI payments (even if I do, I wouldn’t be able to afford to travel anywhere anyway). And if I do land a job, who’s to say they’d approve the time off for either of the weddings? At least with the Michigan wedding, I’d only need 1 day off. Whereas the Hawaii wedding, I’d need to take an entire week off. And, with the Hawaii wedding, they are having a blessing and a big celebration dinner when they get back home. So it’s not like I’d miss out on all the celebration.
Right now I’m leaning towards just going to the Michigan wedding. I already told him that BF and I would go, and he’s really counting on me to be there for him. It requires less of a time commitment and less money. Plus, knowing my other friend is having a blessing and a celebration dinner that I can attend if I can’t go to Hawaii really makes it easier to choose between the two.
But still, I really wish I could attend both. If the job situation works itself out in the next few weeks, it might be possible.
People are treating me differently now that I’m unemployed. My sister seems to think that I am automatically poor. She questioned whether I should have come home this weekend since it would cost money, when I went to the coffee shop that she works at, she gave me a ton of things for free, and she asked if I wanted to sell our Our Lady Peace concert tickets to try and make some cash. Friends give me that sympathetic “something will come up soon” speech. My friend asked if going out for dinner was okay for us to do… even my my mom, whom I have never asked to borrow money from before, asked if I needed any cash to get by – not that I would EVER take money from her. My dad even asked if I wanted to move home, then tried to slip me a $20 (which I refused). It’s just weird. It’s as if being unemployed means I’m suddenly one step away from living out of a cardboard box.
And I know that everybody means well, and none of them actually know my financial situation, so for all they know, I could really be struggling. It’s just strange. I totally appreciate their thoughtfulness, but I don’t want them to worry about me. After all, I’ve only been out of work for one week, I’m living off of severance pay, and hopefully my EI claim gets approved (if it doesn’t, I will throw a serious shit fit).
I’m not going to get all depressed and mopey like the last time I was unemployed. I’m in a good position financially, and will curb my discretionary spending. We will eat more at home now that we have a stove, I’m saving on gas because I don’t have to drive to work anymore, and any sort of entertainment BF and I do will be free – walking, hiking, skiing, playing board games, etc. It’s easy to cut down on spending if you have to. Getting out of debt and being unemployed before have taught me those valuable skills.
Well I’m back from Bellingham. They didn’t have my size in the VFF that I wanted. Boo-urns!! But they took my name and number and said that they would call me when more stock arrived in my size. The guy that was helping me said that they were selling out every VFF shipment that came in, and it is nearly impossible to keep up with the demand!
He sized me properly, so in the meantime I might try to find a place to buy a pair online (saves me another drive down there, and I might get them sooner).
Oh well. At least it was a nice drive on a beautiful sunny day. :)
And … on a PF-related note, I only have $5.18 left until I reach my next $100 Google Adsense payout. Woo hoo! Couldn’t have come at a better time either.