What a gorgeous Saturday! BF is currently in the kitchen making me pancakes. :) Afterwards, I think we’ll wash our cars, then go for a nice walk outside. Hopefully > 10km. We did a massive cleanup yesterday, so our place is looking better. I still really want to paint the walls a nice bright colour, because currently it’s just plain drywall. Don’t ask. I don’t know how to finish off the walls, so painting will just have to wait. It’s hard to believe we’ll be living here for another 3 years or so. I always assumed it was going to be temporary, but with BF training for his career, and not having to pay much rent, you can’t really beat that.
As for my money, I’ve been trying hard to curb the spending, but some of it is just necessary. I’ve had to spend $10 on Skytrain fares over the past 2 weeks to get to my interviews (will probably buy a book of tickets sometime this week), spent $31.91 on my weekly groceries this week, and my 5-day trip home ended up costing $188.46 (including $72 for the ferry). We’re not going out to eat anymore, and I haven’t been near a mall in ages. I’ll have to fill up my gas tank soon though.
Speaking of spending money, I will be taking out about $300 from my Savings Fund on Monday. Which will pretty much deplete that account. I’m not comfortable saying why at this point, but I do hope to get those funds back in the near future.
I have been asked to travel for 2 weddings this year, and with me being unemployed, I’m having a very difficult time trying to figure out what I’m going to do.
As you know, BF and I are supposed to go to Michigan in July for a wedding. My very best friend from college. We have tentatively earmarked my Amex travel dollars towards this trip (I have about $500 earned so far).
But this past weekend, I found out that another very good friend from my hometown has announced that she will be most likely getting married in Hawaii at the end of the summer. Destination wedding = $$$.
I have to figure out what I want to do. I really want to go to both weddings. They are both very good friends of mine. But I need to be responsible here. I don’t know if I’ll get a job anytime soon. I don’t know if I will receive EI payments (even if I do, I wouldn’t be able to afford to travel anywhere anyway). And if I do land a job, who’s to say they’d approve the time off for either of the weddings? At least with the Michigan wedding, I’d only need 1 day off. Whereas the Hawaii wedding, I’d need to take an entire week off. And, with the Hawaii wedding, they are having a blessing and a big celebration dinner when they get back home. So it’s not like I’d miss out on all the celebration.
Right now I’m leaning towards just going to the Michigan wedding. I already told him that BF and I would go, and he’s really counting on me to be there for him. It requires less of a time commitment and less money. Plus, knowing my other friend is having a blessing and a celebration dinner that I can attend if I can’t go to Hawaii really makes it easier to choose between the two.
But still, I really wish I could attend both. If the job situation works itself out in the next few weeks, it might be possible.
People are treating me differently now that I’m unemployed. My sister seems to think that I am automatically poor. She questioned whether I should have come home this weekend since it would cost money, when I went to the coffee shop that she works at, she gave me a ton of things for free, and she asked if I wanted to sell our Our Lady Peace concert tickets to try and make some cash. Friends give me that sympathetic “something will come up soon” speech. My friend asked if going out for dinner was okay for us to do… even my my mom, whom I have never asked to borrow money from before, asked if I needed any cash to get by – not that I would EVER take money from her. My dad even asked if I wanted to move home, then tried to slip me a $20 (which I refused). It’s just weird. It’s as if being unemployed means I’m suddenly one step away from living out of a cardboard box.
And I know that everybody means well, and none of them actually know my financial situation, so for all they know, I could really be struggling. It’s just strange. I totally appreciate their thoughtfulness, but I don’t want them to worry about me. After all, I’ve only been out of work for one week, I’m living off of severance pay, and hopefully my EI claim gets approved (if it doesn’t, I will throw a serious shit fit).
I’m not going to get all depressed and mopey like the last time I was unemployed. I’m in a good position financially, and will curb my discretionary spending. We will eat more at home now that we have a stove, I’m saving on gas because I don’t have to drive to work anymore, and any sort of entertainment BF and I do will be free – walking, hiking, skiing, playing board games, etc. It’s easy to cut down on spending if you have to. Getting out of debt and being unemployed before have taught me those valuable skills.