So BF and I talked a bit yesterday about the possibility of me moving in with him sooner than anticipated. We originally talked about moving in together at the end of this year, but we spend basically every night together as it is, so it makes sense to move in sooner. And we would save on time and gas if we didn’t have to shuffle in between my apartment and his place. Plus, we would get to spend more time together, and it would be a lot easier to get things done if I had my things at his house.
That means I would go from paying $725/month in rent to ZERO (house is mortgage-free, but he still has to put in the labour and pay for materials to renovate the basement suite). I told BF> that since I wouldn’t be paying rent, then the first thing I would do is buy a fridge for us. He currently only has a tiny fridge, and that’s something I can’t deal with. At all. The bigger the fridge, the better! And it makes sense to get one, because when it comes time to sell the house, prospective buyers will want a full-sized fridge.
I would then take the $725/month in rent that I would have paid (minus $100/month for a bus pass), and put it into my Travel Fund. Plus the $600/month I’m already contributing, and I will be flush with cash for the trip. Plus, I’ll be able to fully fund my EF and Travel EF. AND, I want to do some expensive things in Africa (that we originally didn’t have the budget for – going on a safari and going to Zanzibar!), so now I will be able to pay for the both of us to do those things.
I know some of you will probably think that it’s not fair I’m paying BF’s way to do these things, but I honestly don’t mind. I make a lot more money than him right now (as he is still training for his career – which is expensive!), so I can’t expect him to go above and beyond the $10k that we agreed upon when we decided to do this trip. Plus, once he becomes a professional, he’ll be traveling around the world all the time. And I’m treating this trip as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Being career-minded as I am, I doubt I would take months out of my schedule to go traveling again, until I’m retired. I’ll never say never, but I know the kind of person I am, so it’s doubtful. That’s why we’re doing this now, while we’re still young and have nothing holding us down like kids or a mortgage.
So in conclusion, moving in with BF will save both of us time and money, while allowing us to reach the next step in our relationship, and see more of the world that we didn’t think was originally possible.
But, it’s all still up in the air. I could still end up moving in at the end of the year. Which would be fine, we just wouldn’t be able to do more of those things in Africa. But it has to be the right decision for our relationship first. We’ll probably talk about it some more, and then get serious with a plan when he comes back from Europe.
A few weeks ago I asked BF if he would be interested in hiking the Pacific Crest Trail together – a hiking trail that runs from Canada (Manning Park) to Mexico. Obviously he said yes. It’s 4,260 km long (2,650 miles), and depending on how fast you go, it would take between 4-6 months to hike. It’s not something that we have the time for now, but it’s definitely something I think we’d both enjoy doing in the future.
About 300 people attempt this hike every year, and only around 180 finish it. From what I’ve read, it’s not hard terrain to hike, it’s just extremely long and ridiculously hot. But if we could do it, what a cool accomplishment! And an amazing and unique way to travel through the USA.
Anyway, it’s nothing to think about now. I just thought it would be a really cool and frugal vacation for us to do maybe 20 years from now. Obviously it’s not for everyone (not many people I know would want to spend 6 months with a backpack on), but what an adventure it would be!
This was a good weekend. Saturday morning I cleaned up my apartment. I’m one of those girls who has to pull every outfit out of her closet to figure out what to wear. I’ve tried pre-planning my work outfits for the week, but I always end up changing my mind depending on if I have meetings that day, or if I’m feeing chubby, or what would look best with the coat I’m wearing that day. So by the end of the week, I have a closet full of bare hangers, and all my work clothes laid out on my ironing board. Or on the floor under my ironing board.
In the afternoon BF and I went to the climbing gym. I am very pleased to report that I got both the 5.10- and 5.10+ routes I was having trouble with last weekend. Although, for the 5.10+ route, I had to stop and take a tiny break before the last move (meaning I sat on the rope, so I kind of cheated). We’re going climbing again tonight with a few people, so I’m going to do that route again just for self satisfaction. I want to know that I can do it cleanly without cheating.
Sunday we went to Mt. Seymour with one of BF’s friends. I hiked in my crampons, got some use out of my ice axe, and got to repel myself down some steeper sections. It was pretty fun, but really really windy and snowy and cold. I also desperately need to get waterproof gloves. Holding onto the wet rope made my hands freeze, and I had to borrow a second pair of gloves from BF’s friend.
Later on yesterday BF had two of his friends come over. They are planning on climbing Mont Blanc in the French Alps in April, so they had to go over some rope technique and check out flights. Last year BF and a few friends went to Alaska to climb Denali. It was really hard for me to deal with – the possibility of him dying on the mountain and also him going away for 3 weeks (I still didn’t really have any friends in Vancouver). But this time, I think it will be better. I have friends that I can call on, and I am confident in BF’s climbing abilities. I’m a little sketchy about 2 of the 3 people he’s going with, but I’m sure it will be okay.
Anyway, I’ve been working out a lot more lately. And I’ve been feeling better about myself. Now that I have more of a grasp on my personal finance (since I started budgeting in January), I feel like I can now tackle my fitness level. If I lost 15 lbs, I’d look absolutely killer in a bikini. But that’s 10 lbs less than my natural body weight, and it takes a lot of effort to get there. Plus, I’ve never been able to maintain it. So we’ll see what happens. Right now my goal isn’t really to lose weight, but rather to get in really good shape. And then everything else will fall into place. :)