Our original plan was to live in Stuttgart for 6 months, spend all of August traveling, and head back to Vancouver for the beginning of September. But now it looks like we be staying for good, and never coming home.
We will actually be extending our stay in Stuttgart an extra 3.5 months until mid December. :)
So right now, the plan for us is to still travel together for 3 weeks in August. Then, he will go back to Stuttgart. I will continue to Ireland, Scotland, and Iceland by myself. At that point, my travel plans become unclear. My original plan was to go from Iceland to Vancouver and spend 2 weeks there, before hopping over to Toronto for CPFC12. Then I’d head back to Stuttgart again. But, it’s not a very economical way of doing things. I did a bunch of research into flights, and basically I’d save about $800-900 in airfare if I just went back to Stuttgart for the 2 weeks in between Iceland and CPFC12, then fly to Toronto for a week. That makes the most sense.
However, there are things I need to take care of in Vancouver. So I’m going to figure out if I can get everything done via phone or here in Stuttgart, and if so – then I’ll skip out on Vancouver and save a huge chunk of money by just going to Toronto for a week.
While I would have liked to go home permanently in September and potentially look for more work opportunities, I’m content with staying here in Europe (after the initial shock of Nic asking if we could stay). I’m making enough money to support my lifestyle, pay the mortgage, and save some money. Granted, I’m not saving as much as I would like, but it’s less than 4 months more, so I know it’s doable.
It feels so indulgent to extend our stay, and I do feel guilty… but over my lifetime, an extra 3.5 months isn’t a lot. And I know I’d regret not staying. Plus, it’s going to benefit Nic’s career in the long run, and that’s what’s important now. I can work from anywhere. A few things have come up, and he can’t start the last semester of his masters program until January, so it doesn’t make sense for him to go back to Vancouver and try to find work for just a few months, when he has a good job at an architecture firm here.
I’m happy about this decision, and while I do miss home, I’m excited for what we have in store for the rest of the year. And we will definitely be slowing down our travel schedule through the fall, but we’ll still be doing a lot of exploring. Germany has so much to offer that we haven’t seen yet – Frankfurt, Hanover, Cologne, and probably Munich again (hopefully for Oktoberfest!!!). But, we also have two big trips planned – Turkey/Bulgaria in October for my birthday, as well as Budapest at some point. :)
Losing your job can be a huge blow to your self-confidence. It can kill your spirit, send you spiralling into depression, and drain your bank account. Unemployment can be a devastating experience, but the key to surviving the weeks and potentially months between jobs is to remain calm, stay positive, and create a plan.
It’s no secret that I’ve been fired not once, but twice before. The first time, I was let go the day my 3-month probationary period was supposed to end. My position was being eliminated, and since the company was restructuring, my skillset didn’t fit what they needed. Plus, they hated my writing style. It took me 11 weeks to find a new job. The second time I was fired, I was completely caught off guard. You all know the story by now, so I won’t say anything else. I spent 6 weeks unemployed before I found a new job.
Both times, I went through a whirlwind of emotion: shock, anger, frustration, and finally – acceptance. Once I had accepted the reality of what had happened, I worked hard every day to prove to myself, my former employer, and my future employer that I was a skilled and valuable asset to any team.
Here are 8 things I learned that have helped me get through unemployment and onto my next job:
Understand why you lost your job
If you were fired, make sure all of your questions are answered by your boss. This can be a really hard time, but try to keep your emotions in check while you are still at the office. Understanding the reasoning behind what happened will help you move forward and become a better employee. At first, I was so embarrassed that I had lost a job because of my writing skills. But after I stepped away from the situation and spoke to a former co-worker, she made me realize that I had come from a background of technical writing and government work, and that’s just not what they were looking for.
If you feel your termination was unjust, document the reasons why, and contact a wrongful dismissal lawyer for a consultation. I’ve had to do this before, and while a consultation might be expensive (I got quotes anywhere from $200-350), it’s important if you don’t think you were treated fairly.
Apply for unemployment benefits
If you qualify for Employment Insurance (EI), for gosh sakes take advantage of it! Don’t let a sense of pride get in the way of receiving financial assistance when you need it the most. Even if you think you have the financial resources to get you through until your next job (savings in the bank, a spouse with a steady job, or parents who are willing to help you out), you never know when your next job might be. Applying for unemployment benefits assures you will have at least some income assistance while you search for a new job. Plus, you will likely contribute to EI for your entire career – it’s there for you when you need it because you’ve paid for it.
Keep your spirits up
The worst part about losing your job – besides the lack of income – is the constant questioning from friends and family about what happened and how the job search is going. It’s the absolute worst, and was a major frustration point for me. Your loved ones don’t mean anything by it, they just want to be there for you and try to help you. Even though it might be hard, try to think positively. Think about all the great opportunities just waiting for you out there, and make sure to focus on the future, not the past.
Create a schedule
It will help you get through each day by creating schedule blocks fo time for job searching, otherwise you might feel overwhelmed. For example, you could decide to spend from 9am to 10am each day searching the internet for jobs, from 1pm to 2pm brain storming new ideas and contacting potential leads, and then from 2pm until 4pm writing resumes and applying for those jobs. Having a set schedule keeps you moving forward and looking towards the next thing you need to do.
Keeping to a schedule will also give you the feeling of purpose you lose when you don’t have a job to go to. So feel free to take the first few days to sleep in, get angry, eat ice cream, and maybe drink a beer (or two, or three), but after that? Get back to normal. You will feel more professional, confident, and willing to apply for jobs you deserve if you’re in the mindset to work.
Be selective with your resume
It may seem counterintuitive, but don’t spend your valuable time randomly applying for every job posting you see. I made that mistake once after finishing up a job contract. I was freaking out about not having a job, and I was so focused on finding employment as quickly as possible that I basically applied for every single job posting I found that was remotely related to my skill set. I ended up interviewing for positions well below my qualification level, in cities I would never dream of moving to, and for companies and industries I wasn’t even interested in.
Think of it as a way to reinvent yourself. Now’s your chance to try to break into a new industry, utilize those skills you weren’t able to use at your old job, or find an employer who has the work culture you’ve been craving.
Conserve your money
This is a no-brainer, but now is the time to be as frugal as possible and watch every penny. Making extra payments towards your debt is usually a good idea, but when you’re unemployed, you should only be paying the minimum on your debts in order to free up cash for other essentials. Do your research to see if you qualify for deferments on any loans, and contact your credit card companies to negotiate a lower interest rate if possible.
Contact old colleagues by e-mail or through professional networking sites like LinkedIn. Try to get recommendation letters as soon as possible before you lose touch. Make a list of all your personal contacts, let friends and family know that you’re looking for a new career opportunity, and start making your rounds. Even if no potential job leads come from it, strengthening your connections with people in your industry is always a good thing, and might come in handy later in life.
Looking back, I can see now that being let go from my job was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me. I know it’s easy to say that now, but make sure to keep that in mind when you’re looking for work. There’s a great job out there just waiting for you. Sure, you’ll lose some income and a bit of self-confidence, but what you will gain is the ability to refocus your career. You now have the time to decide what is most important to you in a job, what you liked and disliked in an employer, and the knowledge that eventually you will find a job that is more in tune with your lifestyle and your goals.
What tips do you have for getting through unemployment?
Over the last six years since graduating from college, I’ve quit, been laid off, gotten fired, and had contracts end. I’ve had horrible bosses, evil co-workers, and I’ve also left jobs that I loved. Still, even when I’ve hated my job, hated my co-workers, hated the company environment – I still had a hard time with the idea of leaving.
It can be difficult to know when the perfect time is to leave a job. Sometimes certain factors outside of work can force you to make that decision (like moving to a different city), and sometimes it’s what happens during office hours that pushes you to make that life changing decision (layoffs, ending contract, incompatible co-workers).
But as a new graduate without much work experience, how do you know when to make the move?
Here are some signs it might be time to look for a new job:
Less hours or reduced duties
It can really put a strain on your finances, and it will be hard to stay satisfied at work if your hours are being reduced, or if your duties are being scaled back. A lot of employees depend on extra hours to supplement their regular pay cheque.
If your fellow co-workers are maintaining their hours and daily tasks, while yours have dropped off noticeably, it might be a sign that your job is at stake. If you think this is a situation that can be worked on, try talking with your boss about your performance.
About eight years ago, I worked in a call centre because I knew I could count on at least two or three extra hours of overtime every day. That extra money each month was crucial for someone like me – who was living pay cheque to pay cheque. When the overtime opportunities suddenly dried up for people in my work group (while other groups maintained overtime hours), I was left scrambling to find a new job to supplement my income.
The temporary solution
For 20-somethings fresh out of school, the job market can be tough. A lot of new graduates end up taking jobs in retail or customer service just to make ends meet while they look for a career job. But if the job hunt takes longer than expected, it might be tempting just to forget about your career and start living life with the temporary job.
I once took a job knowing that I only wanted to spend a year there, gain some experience, make some money, and move on. But when the work was easy and the pay was good, it became too easy to get comfortable. I left that job having stayed there almost a year longer than I had anticipated. While it was a job in my career field, I felt like I had missed opportunities elsewhere that could have been more valuable to advancing my career. And while I’m glad I recognized what I was doing as soon as I did, I can see how I could have let myself stay there for years – it was just that comfortable.
Loss of enthusiasm
While there is no requirement that says you have to be passionate about your job, you do have to like it enough to want to do it every day. If you wake up every morning and absolutely dread the idea of going to work, or you spend most of your day in the office surfing the internet, you might want to start searching for a new job. When you are bored at your job, chances are you will start to get careless and make mistakes – which isn’t good for your career, and isn’t fair to your employer.
If there are a few tasks that you do very well, or if you have a unique skill set that nobody else has in the office, you might get stuck with those tasks – even if you don’t want them.
Being a “specialist” can be good or bad, depending on the way you want to shape your career. If there is a high demand for your skill, becoming a “specialist” will work to your advantage. However, if you are looking to develop new skills and become a more well-rounded employee, being pigeonholed into a “specialist” role can be a huge detriment to your career.
I had to make that decision early on in my career. I had the option of specializing as a graphic designer, or positioning myself as an all-around marketing professional. Even though I loved the idea of designing, being creative, and working with my favourite software as a graphic designer, I knew there would be more opportunities to grow in marketing.
You’ve outgrown the position
Going to a job every day that doesn’t provide you with engaging and challenging work can be extremely discouraging if your goal is to learn and constantly improve your skills. The best thing to do is voice your concerns to your boss. Ask if there are opportunities to attend conferences or take courses in order to build your skill set and keep on growing as an employee. If there aren’t any, it might be time to update your resume and start networking.
You might get let go
If the company is going through a restructuring process, or is in the middle of being sold or merged, you might want to dust off your resume. Even if you don’t think your job is in jeopardy, it might not be a bad idea to throw a few resumes out there just in case. When a company goes through any sort of massive change, there is always the possibility of cutbacks and layoffs – no matter how secure you think your job is.
For me personally, even if I’m happy at my job, I’m always interested in new opportunities. While I might not be actively applying for positions, I do make sure to occasionally sweep through the list of employment links I have saved, and I’m always networking … because you just never know what might come up.