Dating Etiquette: The debate about coupons
As most of you know, I’m a single gal (James Franco, are you reading this?). And if you’ve been with my blog since the beginning, you also probably know that I’ve been in long-term relationships for almost six years (2 years, 3.5 years). So I’m a little out of touch with dating etiquette. Specifically the use of coupons on the first date.
Six years ago, I probably would have considered it
a little tacky to use a coupon on the first date. But then again six years ago, I was in massive debt, and using coupons probably could have helped out my cause. Well it’s 2011 now, and with the economy what it is (where all of a sudden frugal is the new cool), I thought that perhaps there had been a switch in mentality regarding coupon use.
So I went and asked the good people on Twitter what they thought about using coupons on a first date. Here are a few of the responses:
I could post more responses, but you get the picture. It was a resounding HELL NO (with a few ‘why nots’ sprinkled into the mix). Which leads me to this question: WHY?
I mean, yeah, okay, maybe using a coupon can be viewed as tacky. But couldn’t it also be viewed as smart? Why would you willingly pay full price for something when you know you don’t have to? To show that you’re not cheap? Because it’s awkward to hand over a coupon and still feel confident? Your value isn’t dictated by the amount of money someone spends on you. Let’s say you took a date to a restaurant that you could afford. But you had a 2-for-1 coupon anyway. You wouldn’t use it? Do you really have to spend more money on the first few dates in order to get someone to like you and want to go out with you again? Because let’s face it: if you weren’t on a date, you know you’d be using that coupon.
Which brings me to another question: why, then, is it acceptable to use a coupon once you’ve been dating for a while? You don’t have to impress anyone anymore?
It’s such a weird thing, that so many people area against using coupons on a first date. Not that I’m for it (or against it), I really don’t have an opinion anymore. It’s just really interesting to see that coupons are viewed as a negative thing on a date, yet completely acceptable for everything else in life. Especially since most people who follow me on Twitter are personal finance bloggers, or are interested in personal finance in general. You would think that that group of people (out of all of the different kinds of people in the world) would be most willing to accept coupons within first date etiquette.
In my dating history, no guy has ever used a coupon on the first date, and truthfully I’m not sure how I would respond. Maybe it would be negative. Or maybe I’d be so impressed that we’d high-five each other and talk about how much money we’ve saved by using coupons over the years. Who’s to know what would happen! Since I’m single and (sort of) dating at the moment, I’d like to test this theory out. I’m not sure how I can naturally create this coupon situation, or what would happen (or if I could even find a guy who use a coupon on a first date), but I’m going to try. Maybe I could be so bold as to whip out a coupon of my own! All in the name of very scientific and extremely important personal finance research, of course. :)
Would you use a coupon on a first date?
P.S. if you’re on Twitter, follow me @krystalatwork! :)
Author: Krystal Yee
I’m a personal finance blogger and marketing professional based in Vancouver. I’m a former Toronto Star (Moneyville) columnist, author of The Beginner’s Guide to Saving and Investing, and co-founder of the Canadian Personal Finance Conference. When I’m not working, you can usually find me running, climbing, playing field hockey, or plotting my next adventure.