Relating to others and feeling old
This is a post inspired by Paranoid Asteroid’s post, Getting Old, and Fabulously Broke’s post about feeling awkward. I’ve touched on this topic before on this blog, and I feel like it’s something we all go through in some form.
I’m 28 and I feel old. I’m exhausted by 10pm, I don’t understand the youth of today (or most of their music), and my metabolism has slowed down to a snail’s pace. I shake angry fists of rage at hooligan drivers who are going too fast, and I find myself starting my sentences with “back when I was growing up,” way too often. It doesn’t help that I play on a field hockey team with high schoolers either.
And while I find it hard to relate to my friends who still go out until all hours of the night, are broke until pay day, maybe have entitlement issues, and perhaps aren’t as financially sound as they should be at their age – I can understand where they’re coming from because I’ve been there too. I can remember struggling to make ends meet, partying all the time, getting notices from collection agencies and wondering if my situation was ever going to change.
It’s funny. I like shows like Jersey Shore and I watch it every week, but I can’t relate to them. I talk to “grown-up” people about “grown-up” issues, but I can’t relate to them either. It seems like I struggle to find common ground with people these days. I’m more financially and professionally aware that a lot of my friends, but most of them are married or engaged or have a baby or own a house – none of which I can relate to. I can talk about a popular TV show with my group of friends, but then the topic turns to the bar they plan on going to on the weekend or wedding invitations and I’m lost. Or I’ll talk to older co-workers about mutual funds, then they’ll turn around and talk about politics and I have nothing to say. Which leaves me feeling a bit socially awkward, even though I’d like to think that I’m a confident person.
Sometimes I feel much older than 28, and other times I feel juvenile. And after thinking about this for a long time, I’ve come to the conclusion that it might because I’m just on that cusp of No Turning Back Adulthood – where you can’t really make that excuse of being young and carefree anymore … but you still kind of want to.
Author: Krystal Yee
I’m a personal finance blogger and marketing professional based in Vancouver. I’m a former Toronto Star (Moneyville) columnist, author of The Beginner’s Guide to Saving and Investing, and co-founder of the Canadian Personal Finance Conference. When I’m not working, you can usually find me running, climbing, playing field hockey, or plotting my next adventure.