Why the travel plans might get canceled

Well, it looks like our travel plans are going to be canceled. I am very, very disappointed. Words can’t even describe it. It wasn’t just a vacation … it was a life changing opportunity. It was something I’ve been mentally and financially preparing for over the past year, and I was so excited that we were going to share in this adventure together.

Basically, BF has come across a career-related opportunity that he doesn’t think he can pass up. And it would require a 3 year commitment. He says it will give him training and skills that he wouldn’t be able to get by himself.

But it also means a huge sacrifice. He would have commitments every week and on some weekends too. We wouldn’t be able to travel or move anywhere if the opportunity came up. And a lot can change in 3 years!

I understand where he’s coming from. He’s still working towards his career (and traveling will just set him back). He wants to take every opportunity available to him so that we can both be successful at what we do, buy a house together, get married, and live a comfortable life.

3 years is a long time, and I’m not too sure what to do with myself now. I wasn’t expecting to stay on the Lower Mainland past next year. I’d like to start my business, but Vancouver is not the market to do it in. It would flop. So that idea is shelved. I’d like to go back to school, but I don’t know if I have it in me. I’d also like to travel, but I wouldn’t go by myself.

What I really want to do is buy property. That has been a huge goal of mine for years. Plus, the place we’re in is SO small. Ideally I’d love to buy a house, live in the basement and rent out the top. But even if I save up religiously for the next year or so, I still might not have enough to break into the condo market, never mind a house (damn you Vancouver!). Still. You might see the revival of my Down Payment Fund sometime soon.

So that’s where we are right now. We’ll find out by the end of this month if BF gets chosen for this opportunity. There’s still a chance we’ll go traveling, but I think that even if for some odd reason he doesn’t get this opportunity, he’s already seen the value of working and getting ahead in life, instead of taking a hiatus. Which is what my position was for years, until now. Plus, he’s already been traveling for extended periods twice before. I guess timing is everything. I truly am happy for him, and I’m trying to stay positive about it, but I think it’s okay for me to be sad and disappointed for a while.

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1. See you soon, Vancouver! | Give Me Back My Five Bucks says:

   Friday, January 27, 2012 - 02:53am at 2:00 am

   [...] my round-the-world-trip plans got canceled a few years ago, I was devastated. So I’ve been really conscious about not getting my hopes [...]

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