Being a bridesmaid

It’s interesting to hear all of your perspectives about the duties and obligations of the bridal party prior to the wedding.

I suppose it’s hard because I understand that I have an obligation to her. Being a bridesmaid is an honour, and I’m happy to help with the planning and preparation for the wedding. But living in a different city makes it hard for me to physically attend all of the things she wants me to attend. Especially because I don’t have a car, and she lives on the island.

Anyway, I will commit to attending the wedding shower if need be, but I really can’t afford the bachelorette party. She wants us all to stay at a hotel downtown (even though I could stay at my parents house for free). We’ll have to pay for food and drinks and shenanigans … so that’s why, including my travel costs to go back to the island, I can’t afford to go. None of the other bridesmaids are able to attend either, so I do feel bad, but she does have to understand our situations.

These are the first 2 weddings in which I’ve been a part of the bridal party, and it certainly is an eye opener. And it definitely reaffirms my stand on not having a big wedding & reception, or even having a bridal party.